SUPPORTING ADULTS AND COUPLES THROUGHOUT LOS ANGELES AND CA ONLINE
Stop repeating the same arguments and start feeling like a team again.
You don’t want another argument. You want to feel understood.
You care deeply about your relationships.
You want connection. You want closeness. You want it to feel easy.
But instead, you keep finding yourself in the same dynamic.
Maybe you over-explain to avoid being misunderstood.
Or shut down when things feel tense.
Maybe you feel responsible for everyone else’s emotions.
Or struggle to say what you actually need.
Sometimes one of you pursues connection.
The other pulls away when overwhelmed.
And before you know it, you’re both reacting instead of feeling heard.
You may look secure on the outside… successful, self-aware, emotionally intelligent.
But in your relationship, you feel anxious. Or reactive. Or unsure.
You replay conversations.
You wonder if you asked for too much.
You question whether you’re being unreasonable.
You try to fix things before they fall apart.
Or you shut down because you don’t know how to stay present when emotions run high.
And it’s exhausting.
These patterns don’t just affect your romantic life.
They show up in friendships.
At work.
In family dynamics.
You might overfunction and feel resentful later.
Or stay quiet to keep the peace.
You might choose partners who feel emotionally unavailable,
or feel disconnected even when you’re together.
On the outside, things may look fine.
Inside, you feel lonely.
You’re self-aware enough to see the pattern, but not sure how to interrupt it.
Relationship issues don’t mean you’re broken.
They usually mean you learned how to survive connection in a certain way.
What once protected you may now be creating distance.
You don’t have to keep repeating what you’ve outgrown.
And you don’t have to figure out how to change it alone.
And the hardest part?
You’re self-aware enough to see the pattern, but not sure how to change it.
Relationship issues don’t mean you’re broken.
They usually mean you learned how to survive connection in a certain way.
And what was protective once may not be serving you anymore.
You don’t have to keep repeating what you’ve outgrown.
You don’t want another argument. You want to feel understood.
As we do this work, something shifts.
You begin to understand what happens beneath the reaction.
You slow the cycle down.
You start to see the moment where anxiety turns into pursuit.
Or overwhelm turns into shutdown.
Instead of fighting each other, you begin to understand what the fight is protecting.
In the process of doing this work, you begin to trust yourself.
You stop chasing relationships that require you to abandon yourself.
You stop spiraling when someone pulls away.
You stop feeling responsible for everyone else’s emotions.
And in your relationship, something changes.
You start speaking from vulnerability instead of defensiveness.
You listen without preparing your rebuttal.
You feel less reactive and more grounded.
You start setting boundaries, and actually enforcing them.
You feel more confident speaking up.
You feel clearer about what you will and won’t tolerate.
If you’re an individual, that may mean walking away from what no longer aligns.
If you’re a couple, that may mean staying, but showing up differently.
Instead of thinking:
“I’m not good enough.”
“I’m unimportant.”
“I always get discarded.”
Or:
“You never show up.”
“You’re too much.”
“You always pull away.”
You begin to believe:
I have value regardless.
I’m okay as I am.
I don’t need someone else to define my importance.
And we can handle hard conversations without losing each other.
You become more discerning about who gets access to you.
You’re no longer chasing chaos.
You’re choosing steadiness.
You can feel sad without shaming yourself.
You can reflect on your family without blaming yourself.
You can see what shaped you, and decide what changes now.
You feel like you’re on the same team again.
That’s the shift.
How I Work With Relationship Issues
We won’t just talk about what happened this week.
We’ll look at the patterns underneath it.
We’ll explore:
Why you feel afraid to speak up.
Why being discarded hits so deeply.
Why you feel responsible for other people’s feelings.
Why certain dynamics feel familiar. Even when they hurt.
If you’re coming in as a couple, we’ll look at what happens between you.
How one person reaches for reassurance while the other pulls away.
How tension builds before either of you realizes it.
How the same argument keeps resurfacing in different forms.
Relationship therapy isn’t:
Me telling you to “just communicate better.”
Me taking sides.
Me turning one of you into the problem.
Me giving you scripts that don’t feel natural.
It’s helping you understand the system you learned, and the cycle you’re caught in, and giving you tools to move differently inside it.
In our work together, I’ll challenge you gently.
I’ll help you notice where you self-sabotage, and where you both get reactive.
I’ll support you as you practice enforcing boundaries, even when it feels uncomfortable.
And I’ll help you slow down the moments that usually escalate.
You don’t have to become harder.
You don’t have to become someone else.
You just have to become clearer.
And once you’re clear (individually or together) you can choose your relationships instead of chasing them.
Therapy for relationship issues can help you:
Identify the patterns that keep you feeling discarded, reactive, or shut down.
Recognize how your attachment history shapes the way you connect under stress.
Understand the cycle you and your partner get caught in. And how to interrupt it.
Reduce emotional reactivity during conflict.
Strengthen your ability to speak up without escalating or withdrawing.
Enforce boundaries instead of hoping someone else will protect you.
Improve communication without turning conversations into battles.
Increase emotional safety… within yourself and within your relationship.
Develop discernment about who gets access to you.
Trust yourself to stay grounded when connection feels uncertain.
Relationship therapy for:
Attachment & Abandonment Patterns
• Fear of abandonment and rejection sensitivity
• Dating emotionally unavailable or inconsistent partners
• Over-functioning, people-pleasing, and emotional over-responsibility
• Attachment trauma and early relational wounds
High-Achieving, Lonely & Self-Doubting
• Successful on paper, disconnected in love
• Late bloomer shame and comparison
• Self-worth tied to being chosen
• Difficulty trusting secure connection
Couples Stuck in the Cycle
• Premarital counseling and preparation for marriage
• Pursue–withdraw dynamics
• Emotional disconnection under stress
• One partner emotionally reserved, the other longing for closeness
How This Work Creates Lasting Change
My approach integrates psychodynamic therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and EMDR for relational trauma.
Psychodynamic therapy helps us understand the deeper emotional patterns shaping your relationships, especially the ones that feel familiar, frustrating, or hard to break. We explore how early experiences and unconscious beliefs may still be influencing how you connect today.
For couples, I draw from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to slow down reactive cycles and uncover the attachment needs beneath conflict. Instead of staying stuck in surface arguments, we focus on the emotional pattern you both get pulled into, and how to shift it so connection feels more secure and steady.
When relational wounds run deeper ( especially around abandonment, rejection, or inconsistency) EMDR can help process the emotional charge that keeps old experiences feeling present. This allows you to respond from clarity rather than reactivity.
This work goes beyond communication strategies.
It’s about helping connection feel safer, within yourself and with each other.
Couples Therapy Begins with a Relationship Intensive
Couples therapy in my practice begins with a five hour virtual intensive.
Starting this way allows us to move beyond surface level conflict and understand the deeper pattern between you much more quickly.
In weekly sessions, couples often spend the first several weeks simply describing what has been happening in the relationship. When a relationship is already stuck in a painful cycle, that pace can feel frustrating and slow. The intensive allows us to complete the assessment phase in one focused day so we can clearly understand the dynamic between you, the attachment needs underneath the conflict, and the direction our work together will take.
From there, we transition into weekly sessions where we begin the deeper work of shifting the cycle and rebuilding emotional safety. Most couples continue therapy for three to six months, though the length of treatment depends on your goals. Starting with an intensive creates clarity, momentum, and a stronger foundation so the ongoing work can move forward with purpose instead of staying stuck in the same arguments.
Frequently Asked Questions About Therapy for Relationship Issues
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In our first few sessions, we’ll slow things down and look at the bigger picture. Your relationship history, family dynamics, and the patterns that keep repeating.
My work is attachment-based, which means we explore how you learned to connect, protect yourself, and respond to closeness or distance.
If you’re coming in as an individual, we’ll look at:
Where you overgive.
Where you silence yourself.
Where fear of abandonment or rejection may be shaping your choices.
If you’re coming in as a couple, we’ll focus on the emotional cycle you both get pulled into… not just the surface-level conflict, but the deeper needs underneath it.
The goal isn’t to rehash arguments.
It’s to understand the pattern, and help you move differently inside it.Sessions are conversational, but intentional.
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This is one of the most common questions I hear.
Therapy isn’t about assigning blame.
It’s about increasing awareness.Often, what feels like “being the problem” is actually a survival strategy… people-pleasing, over-functioning, withdrawing, pursuing reassurance, or shutting down under stress.
For couples, the issue is rarely one person.
It’s the cycle you get stuck in together.We look at what’s happening without shame and identify what needs to shift so you can respond with more clarity and security.
Growth requires responsibility.
But never self-condemnation. -
We’ll begin with a 15-minute consultation so we can connect, discuss what’s bringing you in, and determine if we’re a good fit.
If we decide to move forward, I’ll send intake paperwork and a link for your first virtual session.
From there, we begin the work… thoughtfully, steadily, and at a pace that supports real change.
More questions? Check out my FAQs page.
